When oneness is broken by sexual integrity issues and addiction the effects on a wife are harsh and deep.  It is a ripping of the spirit, soul and body.  A woman can feel crazy, very disregulated and feel like her world is crashing in.  God created marriage to be safe and the closest relationship between two humans yet many men are not present in their marriages and wives are left wondering what is going on or they know what is going on but feel there is nothing that can be done. 

When sexual integrity issues are present in the marriage it spiritually uncovers the family and opens them up to spiritual oppression and other oppressions directly from a husband through typical mindsets and behaviors that manifest due to the double-mindedness that sexual integrity issues bring to a man. 

Lisa works with women to strengthen and encourage healing of the deep soul wound that occurs with the betrayal of a husband no matter how it comes.  Depending on where a couple is at usually boundaries (loving distance) needs to be learned and enforced in order to bring some sort of peace to the chaos in a wife's mind, self-care and learning how to calm her nervous system needs to be an absolute priority, understanding how to navigate the chaos that comes when a husband is changing his mindset and behaviors and building a support healthy system of other women who have been there.  

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Symptoms of Betrayal Trauma - this is not an exhaustive list
Racing thoughts - what’s going to happen next, what don’t I know
Can’t eat, can’t sleep
Isolation, avoidance
Can’t concentrate- foggy brain, intrusive thoughts
Emotionally and physically numb
Nightmares/bad dreams
Flashbacks
Hyper-vigilance
Triggers- anything that takes a wife into a place of disregulation can look like anger, sadness, shut-down, people pleasing
Weight loss or gain depending on how the body responds to the stress.
Hard to control emotions….cry easily or can’t control anger, rage pacing/mindless body activity
Lots of anxiety
Fear, numbness, shock, feel as if you are floating/disassociation.
Feelings of helplessness, immobility, isolation, depression, denial, confusion, shame, guilt, self-blame
Low to no sexual desire
Hyper-sexuality
Health issues- severe anxiety, depression, chronic fatigue, adrenal fatigue, blood pressure issues, reproductive stress, heart issues, digestive issues, auto-immune issues, allergies, low immune system
Sensations and pain in body - shocks within the nervous system, buzzy feelings in legs/feet arms/hands, headaches, stomach ache, burning bladder, hip pain, bone pain, muscle pain, muscle twitching, numbness in areas of body